This feedback research will shock you

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The next line you're going to read might make you skeptical.... But hear me out. 

The higher up you go, the bigger your blindspots get.

The first time I read it, I was skeptical too. However, the reason behind it is simple and backed by research. Research shows that the more senior your position, the less likely you are to ask for feedback from others.

The graph below says it all...

Here's where you come in.

Every stakeholder you work with has some feedback that can help you improve. The worst part? Most people don't ask for feedback and remain stuck. You don't need to be one of those people.

So the question is how do you get your stakeholders to share their feedback freely?

Lets start with what not to do.

Don't ask: "Do you have any feedback for me"?

You'll probably hear, "Everything's fine".  (not helpful)

Do this instead.

Before you ask for constructive feedback. Share three things with your stakeholders: 

1. Share why you’re asking for their feedback. 
2. Share how you’re going to use their feedback. 
3. Tell them you don't need an answer on the spot. 

Here's an example: 

• “Hey John, I'd like to improve how I run my team meetings. Would you be open to sharing your feedback with me? If you could share one thing I can start doing differently to make this meeting better, I would appreciate it. By the way, I don't need a response today. Please think about it and let me know. I appreciate it.”

A useful question like this can transform your meetings *and* make you a better leader. 

Sadly most managers won't ask. I hope you will.